Being of Sound Mind

I wrote about being sexually safe here, so now I want to touch on the sane portion of safe, sane and consensual sex in the context of domination and submission. I’m using the definition of sane that includes being reasonable, and also of sound mind. To that end, there are a few things I can recommend to help you make sane and deliberate decisions regarding an encounter you may have in real life. 

Sobriety is Imperative

You may think you need some liquid courage to follow through with making your fantasy a reality, but I am telling you, having a clear mind is the way to go. You want to enter into any agreements fully aware of what you are agreeing to. Remember I said good communication is key? You need to be able to remember the conversations you have, and what exactly you agree to! If you are not fully cognizant of what is going to happen, you run the risk of doing more than you intended.

Spur of the Moment Lust

I also believe you can’t just get so horny and hungry that you run off to the nearest glory hole without preparation. Think about it: do you want to suck cock? Yes? More than anything? Well, then do it! But calm down and get those condoms together. Don’t think you can get away with high-risk behaviors forever. That’s insanity at its finest. Be prepared. Stay on top of your lust and don’t let the little head rule the big head until you are secure in your plans.

First Meet Up Excitement

You’ve placed a personal ad or joined a dating site. You’ve emailed back and forth, sent pictures, and you are so ready to go meet up and play. Have you taken the time to think things through, or are you just going to hook up wherever he says because he has a mouthwatering glorious cock? Slow down, cupcake! Keep your head in the game and be reasonable. I highly recommend a hotel for your first hookup. Neutral territory, a moderate amount of safety and security, and that way you won’t be giving a stranger your home address. I want you to enjoy yourself, but I want you to be able to continue to enjoy yourself for many kinky hookups to come.