I’ve been sitting on these comments for a while now and wasn’t sure what to do about them. Ignore them? Confront him? Address them?
Obviously, I have decided to address them. First of all, let me say there is nothing subtle about the title of my blog. It has the word “kinky” right in the URL. So if you come here and see kinks that you don’t like, just hush your mouth and move on. This same guy has seen fit to stick around for 9 months (does that make him a fan?) just to make negative comments kink-shaming cuckold relationships. I won’t stand for it. I believe in safe, sane, and consensual sex, including participation in a cuckold relationship. If a man and woman decide to have a cuckold relationship, it is none of your business to like or dislike it. You are not in bed with them, so you don’t get to have a say so. You are violent and misogynistic, and would probably benefit from a firm spanking, or well-placed strap-on.
If you don’t like my blog topics, stay away. Plenty of people find them refreshing, giving them acceptance and validation when the world has told them they are strange. So, “L.” go on down the road with your hateful ass. Your kind is not welcome here!
“There is absolutely no way upon this earth i would ever put up with this type of abuse from any woman. So if i understand this right because a man does not have a huge dick that this makes him a cuckold. You must have lost your mind.I am not the largest nor the smallest cock on the block but have never ever had any complaints and believe me i have been with plenty of women all over the World(Navy) and i would have gotten at least one complaint if it were so. Now what woman in her right mind thinks any Man worth his salt would put up with this idea a man stay faithful while his wife screws all these men-A man would have to be a fool to put up with this emasculation and being made a fool. I mean woman are great but not great enough to allow her to abuse her husband in such a way. whoever wrote this should be ashamed of yourself to actually treat another human being in such a way.” (March 27,2021)
“i always say make damn sure you know your husband well because some men should never ever be cuckolded as it is very unwise .” (November 27, 2021)
” if 7.7 cock is not good enough for her its best the whore just moves along in life. nothing worse and lower in this world than a wife who does this kind of thing and is unfaithful. A woman who does this is lower than whale $hi+” (December 26, 2021)
“You people who do this are sick fucking people.” (December 26, 2021)
Stephanie,
First, I want to commend you and ALL of the mistresses for rallying and supporting each other. It is very refreshing to see such positivity in a negative situation.
Second, I agree with you that this person is in a bad way. It would be one thing if your “kink” was forced on this person in all forms of mainstream media. But, it’s not. It’s tucked away on a very specific website with enough warnings (explicit, 18 years plus) to leave zero gray area. You have to actively seek this out. It’s much easier to just not go to your blog. This person is trolling for a reaction. He has a specific reason.
That being said, I’m going to move on from “L”, and focus on LDW and the positives that I personally have taken away from all of you ladies. I have grown to not be ashamed of my kink, but to embrace it. I first called as an insecure guy who was in denial of his own sexuality. The openness and complete lack of judgement gave me the freedom to explore my sexuality. To be honest, I did a ton of therapy, too. With that, I learned to embrace my kinky side and enjoy it without judgement. Thanks to the Mistresses at LDW, I have accepted (and proudly embraced!) my homosexuality. For that I am truly grateful. (Who doesn’t love cock?)
I enjoy my sessions for both sexual (duh!) and intellectual reasons. One of my turn ons is honesty. The info I offer in session is almost always the bare bones truth (Erika even has pics!). With that truth sharing often comes discussion that goes beyond sexual release. I cherish that almost more than the sexual release. Again, thank you for that.
I do honestly hope that “L” finds what he is looking for. I highly encourage him to seek out his own therapy. Perhaps “kinky phonesex” isn’t his forte. And that’s ok. Whatever floats his boat, I hope he finds it. Life is short and full of negativity. Letting go of judgement of oneself leads to letting go of judging others. And that means there’s a little less negativity in the world… and freedom for “L” to be his authentic self. And I think we’d all like to see that, including “L.”
Thank you so much for all you do and please don’t ever change.
And being cuckolded is f-ing HOT!!!
Aaron- thank you so much for sharing your experience with us! I love when we get to hear that we have made a positive impact on someone’s life. The fact that you sought therapy is wonderful! I think you are correct about “L”, but I am hopefully done with him! The other ladies truly did help me by rallying ’round and sharing their opinions. I love having them on my side! Thanks for reading!
At the risk of being jumped on by a group of mistresses..
I don’t support any of the nasty things said by L. I would just emphasize, talking about the things said in the comment thread, and referring to the title of this post, that we want kink to be safe and sane as well as consensual, and so it is pretty much inevitable that _some_ examples of cuckolding, as of other kinks, are going to get called out as unhealthy, regardless of how eagerly both partners may have entered into them. In turn, I don’t think it’s sensible to describe criticism of unhealthy examples of these as “kink-shaming” or “naysaying”.
Right, I’m ready for the spanking and strap-ons.. or maybe it’ll be a sjambok, by this time..
Tea Bag- Thank you for stopping by! I think in *this* case, he was kink shaming, but just saying “No thank you, not my thing!” isn’t. So he could have approached it differently, rather than attacking a cuckold relationship, and been greeted more pleasantly.
Ms Stephanie, I’m certain he was trying to kink-shame, so we are on the same page about that, but as I said my skepticism was about some of the comments here, not about anything L. said (I had already dismissed what he said).
I’m mainly wondering why someone who fought for our freedoms is angry about people enjoying those same freedoms.
On the other hand, while I don’t like what he said, I do think he has a right to express himself. Though maybe not on a site that celebrates what he dislikes. Maybe he should stay on sites that think like he does.
Last thought maybe he was cuckolded and he’s trying to pretend he didn’t like it.
Hi Nacho Joe! He absolutely has the right to express himself, and if he didn’t wish bodily harm on others I would have potentially approved his comments, instead of editing them and responding in a blog post. Hopefully, he finds a place of like-minded folks where he can freely express himself and find what he needs from his interactions. Thanks for reading!
Heyyyy! That same guy, in almost the same words, trolled one of my first posts here at LDW: https://enchantrixdaphne.com/cuckold-couple-pops-cherry-finale/ – 2016!!! His words were almost identical.
Can you say “obsessive?”
YKINMKBYKIOK (Your Kink Is Not My Kink But Your Kink Is Okay) – ever hear that term, dude?
Everyone here is spot on, but what I wish… I wish I had 5 minutes with the guy to be able to find the chink in his fetish/kinky/”vanilla” armor to expose his own inner distress that causes him to lash out. And why this ONE kink/fetish? Is there some inner desire to be cuckolded?
I am SURE that is it.
What a doofus he is. He doesn’t even recognize his own face in the mirror.
Stephanie, you are amazing, woman! Keep it up!
Ms. Daphne! Thanks for stopping by. That may well have been the same character. I do wonder what it is that keeps drawing him back to a kinky blog. He’s never commented on any other type of posts!
I so adore you, Stephanie! Cuckolding isn’t for everyone and I am actively a huge fan of the kink. I love the title of your blog post and the way you addressed the situation. You are such a classy and sassy kinky Mistress. All I want to say to kink shamers are who hurt you? If it’s not for you, move on. Don’t try to tell other consenting adults how to enjoy their sexuality.
You rock Stephanie! XoXo
Thank you so much, Ms. Andi! As Nacho Joe said, he does have the right to express his opinion, but WHY???!!! It takes so much energy to be a hater, and so much less energy to move along.
When someone pops up repeatedly like this, claiming a kink is ‘gross’ and ‘icky’ and obviously not a thing they’d ever do… it’s pretty clear they’re obsessed, and can’t stop thinking about it. Can’t stop wondering, deep inside, what it might be like, to be put in that position, to have to sit back, and watch while your wife finds satisfaction with another man.
“L”, are you afraid to admit that you’re kinda into the cuckold fantasy? Because it looks like you’re really into it, and afraid to explore, so you’re projecting your fear and insecurity outward in a display of toxic masculinity and shame.
Hon, there’s nothing shameful about being turned on! If you want to experience this, you should give one of us a call, and we can walk you through a lovely fantasy. Trying to shame other people over a little harmless fun doesn’t get you where you want to go, and just makes your life a little sadder, shorter, and way less sexually fun.
Everyone else: there’s no shame in wanting to watch the person you are intimately and emotionally close with experience really good sex! And there’s nothing wrong with getting off to the idea of a cuckold relationship, or even experiencing that relationship for yourself!
Keep it consensual, and have fun, darlings.
Ms. Harper- it does seem like he’s slightly obsessed, based on his repeated visits to the blog. Thank you for stopping by and leaving your input!
Seriously; I think this guy is really just a little beta that gets off on posting anonymous comments on women’s blogs. I could care less if your fetish is eating bananas while bathing in a pot of zuppa tuscana or driving while listening to Michael Buble with a butt plug up your ass – your kink is YOUR kink and your business and I support it.
I think mr. ‘L’s’ kink just might be to get attention from women like US – well; here you go darling – and kindly fuck off.
Ms. Scarlet- you have a great point about him wanting attention. Maybe he kept commenting hoping to get a rise out of me. Hopefully, he will understand that I’m pretty unflappable, and finally move on! Thanks for reading and commenting!
What a great post! Probably about to make someone mad but it’s hard not to say something about it. That dude’s comments are wild, like did he not even bother looking up the definition of a cuck/cuckold? Consensual cuckold relationships are valid, and not disgusting. They take work and trust, and it’s rude to assume they always have something to do with size. Most of the time that’s just an added humiliation kink. Anyways can’t imagine coming to a site about kinky calls and complaining about one of the world’s largest known kinks. Lol, I hope he goes to an art museum next and complains about all the colors.
Ms. Riley- that’s what I can’t get over – doesn’t he understand “kink” covers a wide variety of topics? If he didn’t like cuckolding he could have been polite, and not so malicious and vindictive! (The parts I edited out were pretty brutal.) Thanks for the compliment and for stopping by!
I wrote a whole-ass blog post about this subject once upon a time.
Consenting adults are allowed to choose what turns them on.
https://bit.ly/3oWDiM5
Ms. Ryan- Thank you for sharing your post! What “L.” failed to realize, I believe, was the consent aspect of the entire situation!
Wow, it’s as though some people have no concept of “CONSENT” at all. If you don’t like cuckold relationships, don’t fucking have one, I guess? Also, I’m not sure how an actual adult isn’t aware that some people actually *like* emasculation. I mean, if his posts and general disposition are anything to judge by, he may be among them. If this isn’t a call by him to be publicly humiliated, I don’t know what is.
Ms. Becky- I hadn’t actually considered the humiliation aspect of addressing “L’s” issues, and I hope that if he does get excited by it he at least calls one of us to help him along! Thanks for reading!
Stephanie! Your blog highlights some of the not-so-fun things we have to handle. It is unfortunate with “what we do” we become targets for those who are in pain. We do come across some very unhappy people who wish to share their misery with the world.
The person making those comments is immature, hurt, and broken, and looking to let out their vile on others in an attempt to soothe their brokenness. They won’t admit it and probably rally against my words. But that’s all indicative of their unhealthy lifestyle.
Healthy happy and mature people, do not engage in these activities or troll the internet to insult and challenge others’ desires. Healthy people focus on their own life, how to lift up and celebrate those around them, and the ideals they hold true. They don’t go “looking” for people to disparage, challenge, and fight with, their hearts are full of joy, no room for negativity
I often ignore, delete and block naysayers. If you are not here to celebrate “Me” and enjoy diversity then I have no energy or time for you. Our time on this planet is way too short to spend more than a brief moment to block, delete and walk away!
I hope your day is fantastic, Stephanie! Don’t let the B@stids get you down LOL
Ms. Erika- I am sure you are correct in your assessment of “L’s” personality. He seemed very angry with cuckolding in general, very offended that other people may enjoy it. Nobody can get me down with ladies like you to lift me up! Thank you!
What an asshole. An extremely insecure asshole. Seriously who cares what others do in their relationship that is consensual? Why shouldn’t Women be allowed to have preferences and types of Men they’re physically attracted to without being shamed for it?
Sounds like someone isn’t fully secure in who they are in their relationship and has decided to take it out on the rest of the world. I am so sorry that you have to receive that garbage.
StephanieCDCNJ- thank you so much for your input. I agree! If it’s consensual it’s none of my business! He seems like a very angry little man. Thanks for stopping by!
Wow! I am amazed that this guy is so angry. As you mentioned Ms Stephanie – Consensual is the key word here. Cuckolding is not about the woman getting off whilst neglecting her man and cheating on him at every turn. Cuckolding is a consensual arrangement which (may I add) is often brought up by the husband first (in most cases). In all my years as a femdom, I have never had a client come to me and say that his wife made the arrangements all by herself. This is not what cuckolding is about! Also, SPH can play a part in some cuckolding arrangements but they are not always the driving factor in starting up this sort of dynamic.
The guy leaving these comments is writing about something he does not understand. He is assuming that cuckolding is based on a wife making demands. No sweetie, this is not how it works. And look – if you are not into the idea that is totally fine. You don’t have to entertain these types of relationships in your personal life. There are men out there that crave this sort of dynamic and find it overwhelming erotic. You may not comprehend how or why, but that is totally okay, it’s their lives, not yours after all. What’s not okay is the abusive messages and attacks on the lifestyles of people you have never met. It’s time to heal and grow! 🙂
Ms. Ruby- Thank you so much for your input. He is a very angry fella. Hopefully, he comes back around and reads these comments and begins to understand how wrong he is to leave the consent out of the equation. Or maybe, just maybe, he goes away!