Dominant Stephanie Explains
You know that above all, I am dominant. It may come across as me being sassy, or feisty, but when you distill my personality to its essence, one thing you will find is that I am dominant. In charge. In control. (different from a “control freak”- they want to control, I have it.) There are other aspects to my personality, but right now this is what I’m sharing.
Cock Control is Everything
Ms. EmmaJane and I were on a call with a gentleman who greatly admires BBC. I remembered a video he and I had watched previously, and the three of us navigated to it. I like the video for multiple reasons, none of them perhaps quite as intense as the caller, but certainly similar. While I understand D.’s point of view, I didn’t so much see the woman in the video as being subservient to the man. In reality, she was in control of his cock. She was the dominant one.
Giving Gives Pleasure to the Giver 
Yes, the lady in the video was giving an impressive and well-oiled hand job. And yes, the sexy athletic, dark-skinned man was being masturbated. But the dominant woman was in control of the stroking, the speed, the pressure, the intensity. She held his pleasure in her hands.
Dominant Women Look like Everywoman
This, my friends, is how a dominant woman can do things that appear submissive. At first glance, it appears he has a plain, nondescript woman servicing him. He’s laying there in all his sexy slippery glory, and she is doing all the work. That power, though, that she has, is the same sort of rush I get when I hear you on the phone, aching, yearning for release. A dominant woman may look submissive, but never forget, she is in charge. If you think you are, it’s only because she allows you to believe that!
I think it is true that there are many dominant women and you cannot always tell. I also think some women can sense a submissive.
Dominant women have a way of speaking to you. It is in my experience not loud or demanding but they have this sense of their position over you. One of my first experiences (as an adult) with this was when I was about 19 and I worked in an office for the summer. One of the pretty secretaries upon first meeting me said she needed something from the store – “let’s see how fast you can run for me”, she asked. She was not exactly joking. It was maybe 10% joke but 90% she meant it and she wanted me to “run”. It was not my job at all really. It was like she made me. It has always, my entire life overwhelmed me when women speak to me with that kind of thing. The confidence and when they just tell you what you are going to do. They don’t even consider what you want for a minute. It does something to me and makes me want to work for them. It is very deep and real and a bit odd.
Mike- It does seem like we just know. There is an expectation that you will just naturally fall in line. I would guess that a great percentage of the time, men just fall into line without question because it’s the natural response from their submissive core.
I have 2 dominant women in my life. One is my masseuse who I came out of closet with in telling I like to wear perfume makeup lipstick women’s clothes dresses bras panties leggings yoga pants as well using same facial lotions she uses. She was accepting/nonjudgmental as she had me bring all of that in and took pictures with her phone of me dressed up then took me out holding her purse and shopping bags. It was thrill and rush as I wanted her to do this to me and she has!! She’s also taken control over my spending as well. She’s married but told me not to worry about her husband. I’m very happy to be in female lead relationship with her!!! With new gf she doesn’t know I don’t dress but knows I like to wear perfume/lotion/women’s leggings as she to has taken control over my spending as well. Both are exactly what I need to keep me in line.
cream puff- I’m glad to hear things are progressing with your relationship with your masseuse. I’m sure it won’t be long before the other lady in your life learns even more about you. She’ll figure it out eventually!